Thread: Pregnant && scared

Well I just found out 2 days ago that I am one month pregnant. Im 20 yrs olds and I work and go to school. In the past my doctors told me It was a chance that I wouldnt have children because of a certain genetic disease I have. Me and my boyfriend has only been together for 6 months and r love each other dearly but im scared that our relationship is not strong enough to survive a child. My,family and friends try to support me emotionally but its just not enough because all his family does is talk negative ie.. We are not ready, we dont know each other well and we dont have enough finances. what really hurts me is how they dont wanna be involved in our child life. Im trying to give him as much support as I can but im scared also. I cry everyday because God blessed me with a angel that I cant support like I wish I could. Please can someone comment.

hey! im 22, i found out i was pregnant about 7 months ago... at the begining all i did was cry... every night i would cry myself to sleep. you see i was still in school i was working part time and i had only been with my boyfriend 2 months. i was basically a mess. but my boyfriend comforted me and eventually i got used to the idea. what i ended up doing is taking a year off school and signing up for parental benefints, wich gives me 75 % of my salary and my boyfriend ( who is now my fiancé!) works full time. sure its not much money with all the bills to pay but we try our best. we go out a lot less, and really make sure we spend our money wisely... also most probably you will have people buying you things for the baby, because in my experience the bigger my belly gets the more friends and family get excited and always come home with a new outfit or just anything for the baby ! as for the family being so negative... dont worry too much, im sure once the baby is born they will adore him or her ! and if they dont , well do they really need to be part of the babys life? i still have a lot of worries about my pregnancy ,well i havent had my son yet but im sure that when i do give birth to him all these things that i obsess over will probably just be gone, because about every mother that i speak to says that its the best thing that could ever happen to you ! anyways, good luck in your pregnancy !! hope everything works out for you !

Hi darling:
Well, I am sorry that his family is being so negative. But if that is how they are behaving right now, imagine them after the baby is born. Keep in mind that this is totally ur decision and do NOT get pushed into anything. Everybody has a different story. When I was 20 years old I got pregnant and I did have an abortion, For me, it was the best decision I could have ever made. At first I was horrified to even think about causing my baby any pain, But then I was re-assured that the fetus had absoluteyl no sense of touch or pain, and that I would feel nothing becuz it was still a yolk in a sac. Anyways, you do have options. You can have the baby and put them up for an adoption, you can have an abortion or you can decide to keep the baby and be prepared to become a single mother and to put your social life on the back burner.
As much as I know u want to keep the baby, soemtimes u have to love them enough to NOT bring them into a life that u can not afford. I wish u the best of luck in any choice that u make. In my opinion, u still have a whole life ahead of u, why grow up so fast? My best friend in life is a single mom, although she loves her kdis dearly, I see how she struggles each and everyday. Keep in mind that she has a great full-time job as well. She keeps saying how she feels cheated outta life and how she has not had her proper fun going out with friends. Once u have this child, it is all about them, about what they need and what you need to do with them and ur priorities do change a lot. Make sure that before u decide to keep this baby, ur well prepared for all of this. On the other hand, adoption is also a great option. You can give a family such joy, the joy of a child.
For me, I am glad that I chose abortion, i know that some people are against it, but, it is a woman's choice. If I was to keep the child, nobody else's life would change but mine, and I decided that I loved that child enough to not bring them into a world of my misery. The fact is that people who tell u to keep the child are not the ones who will have to parent, their lives wont change, they wont have to give up many things. It is not their business!!!
Good luck beautiful!

I would not have done that. As you know you are going to give birth to an angel. One of my friend also got pregnant at the age of 20 and she was about to abort that child, but after we all forced her to not to do that. It really fells great when you hold your child. think number of times before taking some action..