Thread: need someone to relate to !

hey ! im 22 years old and im 32 weeks pregnant! at the begining it was a real shock but im really used to the idea by now! the only thing is that sometimes i just get so lonely because i feel i have no one i could relate to... all my friends are still in the partying stage and looking for boyfriends... and well all i think of these days is the delivery and baby stuff and planning my wedding for next year ... basically i feel like theres no one i could relate to and sometimes i wonder if somethings are normal or not..like i hardly feel attractive at all anymore, my belly has taken over my body , im never in the mood to have sex, i get tired super early, my muscles are always aching, im super emotional etc.! i feel like when i hear a friend talking about some guy that didnt call her back or some issue like that i feel just feel like saying i dont care ! which is really mean i know, but i just feel like ive been through all that already and im over it... i want to be able to talk to someone who can relate to me and give me advice or tell me about their experience.... my fiancé is really kind and understanding, but hes just not a girl, hes never been pregnant and he just doesnt get it ! anyways, hope someone could help me out!

First of all congrats on your pregnancy, what you are going through is pretty normal, your hormones are not at there normal level now and your body is trying to cope with that,i felt the same way you did about the attractiveness but now i tell my self that i am going through this for a good reason and i put out more effort to look pretty. you don't need to give up on looking good because you are pregnant,this is the time to occupy your time with doing things for yourself when you can. Trust me it will get better just be strong and cheerful. rub your belly often,sing or talk to your baby often too,this helps. Sex feelings will come and go, find positions that you are most comfortable in and that does not require you to do the work,laying on our side is great.be sure to have your baby's father caress you and massage you when possible,this will help to calm you and help him bond with the baby too from now. If you ever need to talk i am here. all the best and God bless. 20.4weeks pregnant.

I completely understand how your feeling. I'm 28 weeks along right now and feeling kind of alone. I'm married and have my families support, but I feel like my husband just doesn't understand what I'm goin through. He has been previously married and has a 9 year old daughter and I feel like he isn't as excited as I am. Also, my sex drive is almost non-existent and I feel insecure about my body sometimes. I understand what your going through. I just keep thinking about how great it will be when the baby is here. If you ever need to chat just let me know.

It can definitely feel lonely, no matter how much your mate tries. I was older and out of the party mode, but I was on bedrest starting in week 16 due to IC and I literally couldn't go anywhere or do anything but watch TV with my feet up. All I can say is that once the baby comes, it's like you won't remember any of this misery. Life almost starts over (in a good way).

Originally Posted by Gainell

Nice!! I would love to have 2 of those

Yeah -- it was no fun at the time. But I got caught up on a lot of movies.

Congratulations!

I'm quite a bit older than you, but when I had my first child I was only 19. Talk about not relating to any of my friends! It was really hard, and my boyfriend at the time was pretty lousy at...well, everything, haha!

Just 8 more weeks and you won't have time to worry about any of this stuff, you'll be so busy with that baby!